"The mark of an immature man is that he would die knobly for a cause. The mark of a mature man is that he would live humbly for one" - Catcher in the Rye -WARNING WRITER SPELLING CHALLENGED! But Sometimes you have to say "what the fuck!"

Saturday, September 13, 2008

Honor Our Heroes

Repost from 9/13/04

I haven’t been able to post since Saturday 9/11. This anniversary haunts so fresh in the American psyche, in my psyche, that I find it hard to re-live. I applaud all the bloggers who took the time to post tributes. For me personally, I hoped silence would speak louder than words.


Out of the ashes and despair of Sept 11, 2001 came many heroes that fill my heart with pride, hope and life. These heroes make me so proud to be an American.

Many of these heroes were shocked and influenced by 9/11 as they sat and watched it on TV. From this tragedy they took courageous inspiration and decided to do something about it. Not since WWII have Americans flocked to enlist in the armed services. So many, took the events of September 11 as impetus to join the service. I thank and applaud these soldiers, and all of our armed forces, for the work they do, and the sacrifices they make, to ensure our freedom.

We remember Pfc. Brandon Titus as one such hero.
-excerpt cut and pasted by vadergrrrl from cnn article off web

Brandon grew up with his divorced father from age 13 amid a legacy of military service, a family tradition for many generations. "He was a proud man that spoke highly of his father Tom, a veteran himself. Brandon just wanted to live up to the Titus name," Spc. Dave Huval, a member of Titus' squad, wrote in a message from Iraq posted to an Internet tribute page.

“Before going off to war, Brandon left a computer disk with a message entitled, "My Time has Come," to be read only if he did not return from Iraq. Tom Titus broke down in tears when he read it aloud.

"I learned a lot from my dad and I wanted to be like him. I wanted to do something that would truly make him proud of me," he said in that message. In many ways, Titus was a typical American kid, a football player and high school wrestler who shared his dad's passion for motorcycles. Resident of a strongly Republican state, he felt the need to give back to his country.

"When I was in high school I was against any type of war or occupation of another country and I was ignorant to think the United States government was a bunch of B.S," Brandon Titus wrote.

"When Sept. 11 happened, my opinion of this country changed very quickly. ... Things hit home when I watched a plane filled with innocent people crash into a building killing them all because of some coward terrorists who live in caves who thought they could divide America by doing this."

Tom Titus experienced the shock of watching his best friend die in his arms during the Vietnam War in 1971. On Monday (Aug 30th), the ex-Army Ranger felt the even greater horror of burying his only son Brandon, 20, killed on August 17 by an explosion while patrolling a Baghdad slum.

Tom Titus barely made it out of Vietnam alive after being wounded twice. In a 1971 incident, a mortar round in the jungle left the decorated soldier without sight in one eye. It took six months in a hospital to reconstruct his face.

Many of his "brothers in arms" wore leather biker jackets to Monday's funeral and more than 100 motorcycles rode in the procession.

"You wanted me to be proud of you," an emotional Tom Titus, wearing his medals on his vest, said in his eulogy. "I just want to say to my child that this is the proudest dad in the whole world."
–Excerpt from CNN

Fallen Heroes Memorial Board

Thanks, love and PRAISE to all the American Heroes

Sunday, September 07, 2008

Who ya callin a SLUT???!!

Repost from 9/7/04

If I admit that I love sex, does that make me a slut?

Are “good girls” only allowed to have sex in monogamous relationships after we wait several weeks? Is it okay for women to use men for sex, and not give a shit the next day?

Are married women supposed to lie there like dud spuds or refuse sex to be good girls? Is it okay for women to enjoy sex, revel in it, and do anything and everything to please our partner?

How about men who brag about being studs with countless notches on their belt buckles, who then insist on marrying a virgin. Is it not okay for women to have slept with more men, then their male partner?

Now who is more of a “slut”…the woman who loves sex, has sexual relations with different men and women, but is honest and open about everything. Or, the woman who pretends to be a good girl, and secretly behind her husbands back, is fucking all his friends, relatives, etc. Now, which is worse?

If these things at times describe me….. am I then a slut?

Short skirt, bright lipstick, no panties, porn loving, liberated, adventurous, S&M practicing, taboo breaking, insatiable, multiple partners, serial monogamous, player

*If your answer is Yes, Yes, Yes, that makes you a SLUT, SLUT, SLUT. Well then, what the hell is so wrong with being a “slut” anyway? What and whose standards are we trying to live up to?

-I found a really good essay on “Sluts” on ZenSlut.com. I could not have said it better. Enjoy.

defining "slut"
slut [slut] n.: 1. a dirty, slovenly woman. 2. a sexually promiscuous woman --slut'tish adj.

dirty [dirt' y] adj. -i-er -i-est 1. not clean. 2. obscene. 3. contemptable or nasty. 4. unfair; dishonest. 5. rough, as weather. -vt., vi. dirt'ied, dirt'y-ing to make or become dirty -dirt'i-ness n.

sloven adj. a careless, untidy person. -slov'en-ly, -lier, -liest, adj

promiscuous adj. 1. consisting of different elements indiscriminantly mingled. 2. characterized by a lack of discrimination, esp. in sexual liasons -prom-is-cu-i-it-y, pl. -ities, n. -pro-mis'cu-ous-ly adv.

synonyms are: slattern, wanton ("a women who engages in lewd, unseemly conduct"), minx, blowsy, dowdy, draggletailed, frowsy, sordid, careless, disordered, neglected, poky, bedraggled, disheveled, draggled, messy, mussy, slipshod, sloppy, unkempt, untidy, dirty, filthy, foul, grimy, squalid, baggage, bimbo, cyprian, hussy, jade, jezebel, pig, strumpet, tramp, trollop, trull, wench, harlot, prostitute, loose woman, saucebox, broad, brat, upstart, chippy, drab, floozy, tart.

antonyms are: clean, fresh, neat, tidy, trim, smart, immaculate, spotless.

it seems, then, that a slut is a woman who fucks indiscriminantly, who is careless about her sexual partners, and is "contemptable," "nasty," "obscene," and "unfair." "unfair" may be the most interesting of the related words. how is it that a slut can at the same time be indiscriminate ("not discriminate; wanting discrimination; undistinguishing; not making any distinction; confused;") AND unfair ("not fair; not honest; not impartial; disingenuous; using or involving trick or artifice; dishonest; unjust; unequal")? she's indiscriminate, just apparently not indiscriminate ENOUGH, since a slut is a woman who will fuck anybody--just not you.

none of the definitions indicate a number, a threshhold beyond which a woman goes from being simply sexually active to being a slut. the reason, no doubt, is because the determination that a woman is a slut is highly subjective, and she needn't even BE sexually active to be awarded with the label. she's a slut if she won't fuck you, she's a slut if she DID fuck you but had no need for you afterwards, she's a slut if she's enjoying sex more than you are, she's a slut when her skirt is too short, her shirt too tight, her lipstick too red, her mascara too dark, her sexuality too much her own. she's a slut when someone else says she is.

to the women who are asking, "how do i tell if i'm a slut?," the answer that our culture gives you is that you know you're a slut if someone else calls you one. it's all about what OTHER PEOPLE think of you. the baggage in our culture around the word (see the definitions above) make it an unlikely label for a woman to apply to herself. who would call herself "dirty," "wonton," or "disordered"? society feeds us plenty of negative thoughts to have about ourselves; we don't need to do it to ourselves, too.

as a woman who challenges society's baggage around the word "slut," and readily embraces it, i would like to offer a different interpretation of the word. i propose that a slut is a sexually empowered woman. a slut is a woman who embraces her sexuality and refuses to let anyone else own it but herself. a slut is a woman who enjoys her sexuality, REVELS in her sexuality, and fucks as her wont is will. she is NOT indiscriminate; to the contrary, she choses only to sleep with people who respect her choices, and her ultimate authority over her own body. she won't sleep with just anybody, but only with people who deserve to share in the awesome sexual power she possesses. she is NOT ashamed; she is powerful, proud, righteous, and deserving of R-E-S-P-E-C-T.

how do you know if you're a slut? you're a slut if YOU say you are. it can be an empowering word when it is applied to oneself out of respect for the power of one's sexuality, rather than slurred as an epitaph by a jilted lover. the more of us women (and, hell, men) who embrace the word with a positive connotation, the closer we get to living in a society that values the power of female sexuality as equally as it values male sexuality. if you ever find yourself in a situation where someone is slinging the label "slut" at you as if it's something you should be ashamed of, tell them "thank you," and smile when you say it. i do.


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