First I must admit, being single again after a three-year relationship feels extremely liberating. At 30 something, I feel empowered, in control, the captain of my ship, master of my destiny (okay I don’t feel this way all the time but Im practicing the power of positive thinking). Why you may wonder did my 3 year relationship end? Because I chose it too, for reasons those include;
1. He was too short for me
2. He made comments about my weight
3. He didn’t respect any of my accomplishments as an activist or scholastically
4. His kid was a total brat and I couldn’t see myself step parenting for the next 10 years a child I could not stand to be around
5. He was a total queeny, drama queen
6. He criticized me too much
7. He tried to control me
8. It just wasn’t workin for me….
So Im single again, a 30 something single (can we get the cheezy theme song playing from the show thritysomething?). As of now, I really like being single. I figure, my son is 14, too old for any man to step in his life and play daddy, and old enough where I cant date and not be harassed. I remind him that what comes around goes around and I will get him back now that he is dating too. A woman in her 30s knows who she is sexually, is independent, confident in themselves, and oh yes, much more mature.
One of my very close friends is also a single momma, single thritysomething. We go out together scouting out single men and basically keep each other morale up, and ward off losers. We like to think of our lives as parallel to the gals on “Sex in the City” despite the fact we live in redneckville sailor town, and those women live in glamorous Manhattan. While out with her dancing, I met my current boy toy (23). Believe it or not, this is my first sailor fling, and I am having a good time hanging out with him. It is an ego boost, but definitely not something I would call a real relationship. He is young and needs to sew his wild oats so to speak, and plus he is a sailor, and sailors leave. (a good and bad thing).
So considering my new status as single, I decided to try the cheezy single thing called “Online dating” or Personals. More for a joke for myself, but also just to give it a whirl, what the heck. You can post for free, you have to pay to make contact. Believe me Im not paying a dime for this crap, but I thought it would be fun all the same.
Here is a link to what I posted on the dating site.
My Online Personal Add
Here is a lovely sampling of some of the guys who have responded. Just my luck eh? Gets me all bothered....NOT!
Date Prospect 1
Date Prospect 2
Date Prospect 3
The following guy sent a note that said:
Are you related to Demi Moore? Anyhow I read your profile and liked what I read. You can check out mine and write back if interested. Hope to hear back from you.
*I dont think he is not soooo bad just a little short for me.
Date Prospect 4
Date Prospect 5
-----Now you guys see why I am still single. LOL. I'll keep you posted if anything interesting happens.
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